Friday, March 30, 2018

My 12 Years

For some people, twelve years is a small part of a life. For me, it is a little bit less than 1/3 of my life lived so far. What happened in these years is priceless for me and the 2247 lives that I have touched. My life is meaningful and challenging because of these 2247 children. Now it is my turn to share my story. You or a friend of yours might even know one or two of the children I have cared for in the last 12 years. Life is full of surprises and miracles. We never know how small the world can be.

 

My name is Lijing Lu. That is my Chinese name. I am a Chinese woman who has been doing orphan work since 2006. When I first started this work, I chose Lily as my English name just because I love flowers. I started as a car coordinator for China Care home in Beijing. At that time, China Care home was run by Brent and Serena Johnson who had also founded China Little Flower as their own non-profit organization. Luckily, I followed the greatest people for this orphan work. Brent and Serena gave me all kinds of support and encouragement to help me grow into a person who is strong and tough and ready for any challenge in orphan work. From March 31st, 2006 to April 2009, I went from a car coordinator to a children’s home director and medical director. With around the clock hands on work I gained a lot of experience. I learned everything from basic care to special medical care. I cared for a total of 623 children during those years. Then China Care merged with Half the Sky in 2009 and I went to work with HTS China Care home from 2009 to January 2011. I cared for a total of 318 children during that time. Then from 2011 to May 2016, I officially joined China Little Flower and worked as the baby home director and medical director. My life was super busy during that time and it was very challenging as well. We never knew how many needs there were going to be and how many lives were waiting to be helped. I easily go back to those crazy times. Like when we had twelve tiny preemies in three weeks; A 610 gram preemie, 780 gram preemie, 800 gram preemie, 930 gram preemie, a preemie with anal atresia, one with spina bifida with a ruptured sac, one with a severe heart defect with an abdominal hernia—I will never forget those crazy days. We took in new babies like crazy because there was so much need. It is always so hard to say NO when an orphanage asks us to help a baby in need. During those years of working with China Little Flower, I cared for 1110 children. Then in 2016, with Brent and Serena’s support and encouragement, I set up Dew Drops as the legal entity of Little Flower in China. Our goal is to support not only orphans who need help but also families who need assistance with their child that has a medical need or require special care. From 2016 until now, 128 orphans were cared for by Dew Drops Little Flower and 68 children were supported through our family care project. 

   

 

 


I am often asked why I do this work and how I continue doing it. I ask myself this sometimes too. Why and how? Honestly, I don’t know the answer. Why do I do this work? It could be because I was moved by Brent and Serena. It may be because of the sweet and happy smiling faces of the children who fought through their medical problems and survived. Or perhaps because I am not cut out to deal with office politics in other work settings? I don’t know the exact answers. But I do know the children’s sweet faces and that their strong will to fight for their lives makes me feel happy, peaceful and determined to try everything possible to help them. I do know the great joy when the “hopeless” preemie boy, Xiang, and the short bowel syndrome boy, Xiao made it and survived as happy, healthy children. I do know the tears of happiness I cried when I heard little Xiao sing “Jesus loves me” in English with his loving parents and siblings. Maybe these are the reasons why I am doing this work and how I can keep going day after day and year after year.

 

  

  

Many people say I do great things for these children. I think it’s more accurate to say that I receive a lot more from these children than I give them. They have taught me more than I could have ever imagined. Without them I would never know how strong a life can be. Without this work I would never know how many medical conditions there are out there that affect children and their families. I would never know how saying “No” can be one of the hardest things a person can say. I would have never become so stubborn when doctors say “this baby is hopeless”. I also never would have been given the chance to meet so many lovely people from all over the world. It is all because of this work. My own life has been forever changed because of all of these precious little lives. I may give a lot to these children, but they give me more in return.


 

 

 

 


 March 31, 2018 is my 12-year anniversary in orphan care. 2247 children have touched my life. Will another couple thousand lives need my help in the next 12 years? I guess we have to wait and see. In the meantime, will you help me by supporting Dew Drops Little Flower and all of the lives that come to us for help? Please help spread the word and donate to support Lily and the children of who still need our help.




Thursday, February 22, 2018

The Holiday Pounds




The Spring Festival holiday has ended and what’s the most common thing posted on your friends WeChat walls? “Why did I eat so much over the holidays?” Everyone is angry with themselves once more as they reflect on their choices. It’s amazing how far we’ve come from the Tang Dynasty beauty standard of “丰腴”, which idealized the plump figure. Now it seems that every ounce of fat must be destroyed to be beautiful and even two weeks of holiday can undo all of our progress.

Contrary to these standards, there is one group among us for which growing “fatter” is the goal. It’s almost like a competition. Last year in June, we received 3 such competitors: the two month old Yue Yue, the one month old Xia Xia and the 20 day old Zhuo Zhuo. Even in the arms of their caregivers, from their wrinkled skin and tiny frames, you can see that they are in serious need of weight gain.
Yue 
Xia

Zhuo
 These three boys all suffer from the same condition: anal atresia. They have all become members of our ever growing “club” of children with this condition. As such, they cannot process normal formula and required colostomy bags. To complicate matters, they all have additional issues specific to them. So, these three have been fighting for their lives to get fatter. After several months, they have had some success, so we can say they too have put on the holiday pounds!

Yue Yue’s transformation:





Xia Xia’s transformation:





Zhuo Zhuo’s transformation:






These once frail bodies have become strong. They had no strength but now they can crawl, roll over, sit and even stand. They continuously make great progress! 




So instead of regretting how much you ate over the holidays, think of these little ones. Because of your love they were able to gain a few pounds and start to thrive!

Dearest Dew Drops Caregivers

“In this world, having a mother is the best. It is like having a treasure.” These are the words from a famous Chinese song. Although the children at Dew Drops currently cannot experience the love of a mother, they are not alone. Instead they are filled with your love.



Here is a tribute to all of our wonderful caregivers:

My dearest caregivers
You are with me day and night
You feed me and change my clothes.

My dearest caregivers
No matter if it is raining or sunny, you come to take care of me
You give me a bath.

My dearest caregivers
You encourage me to grow stronger and bigger
You share my pain when I am crying and smile when I am happy

My dearest caregivers
You have a lot of love for me
You keep me warm each day

My dearest caregivers
Every year on New Year’s Eve
Everyone goes home to their family for a reunion
But you are here with me
You feed me and keep me warm
You hug and kiss me

My life is full of love because of you 


Thank you to all my caregivers. Although I don’t have a mother, I am still loved because of you! May we continue to share our lives and create new memories together. 


Happy Chinese New Year, my dearest caregivers! 

Tuesday, February 6, 2018

12 Steps to Bigger Opportunities

 
 After lunch, while the other children are napping, these three kids practice their walking. They walk quickly down the corridor with a big smile on their face. Walking may seem like no big feat, but these three joyful faces show much excitement and accomplishment.



They reach the corner and stumble upon a flight of stairs.
   

Putting their walkers to the side, here is the story of 2 children and their therapist walking into the rest of their life. 




They start the game of walking up and down the flight of stairs. To most people, we don’t even stop to think before climbing stairs, it comes naturally. But to these children, each step is a precise calculation of how much weight, what muscles to use and where exactly to step with the right posture. 



This is a tiring process, but these children do not give up. They can face frustrations but with continuous effort, they grow more and more proud of their accomplishment!



Maybe they are unable to move easily and gracefully, but their effort and outcomes bring them pure joy. 
  



 12 steps to bigger opportunities. If we believe in and love each child, then they will look positively upon themselves.