Monday, August 11, 2025

Waiting for Surgery...

This month we would like to highlight 6-year-old K, who has been diagnosed with hydrocephalus and hemiplegia.  K has had several surgeries in the past, but his orphanage reached out this spring to ask if we could help him get a surgery in Beijing that would help to both straighten and strengthen his weak ankle and leg.  

K is able to walk, but he is very unbalanced and has a significant limp.  Surgeons are hoping that this procedure will help him gain strength, flexibility and mobility.  Unfortunately, K traveled from his province to our Beijing medical home in May, just as the temperatures were beginning to rise.  

After his initial surgical consultations, the surgeons recommended that we wait until fall to do his surgery - because he will need many weeks recovering in a full body cast.  They worried that he might be very uncomfortable during the heat of the summer, and we agreed it would be best to wait for cooler weather.  In the meantime, our staff makes sure he gets his massage therapy and stretching exercises every day so that his upcoming surgery will have the best chance of success.

While he is waiting, K has plenty to do!  He enjoys interacting with the other children in the home and loves to go on outings to explore the surrounding area.  He happily participates in the crafts and educational activities in our early learning center.  And he is always delighted when our dedicated volunteers arrive to spend a morning playing, singing and laughing.
  



He tackles life with quiet smile and a maturity beyond his years. 


Because of your support, we are able to provide loving, nurturing care to children like K while he waits for, undergoes and recovers from his surgery.   We are so grateful to all who are making this possible! 

Friday, August 8, 2025

Made for Love - Supporting Our Caregivers

Over the years, we have learned a powerful truth: the well-being of children facing disadvantages is closely tied to the strength, effectiveness, and resilience of the adults who work directly with these children. 

Whether they are nannies, group home parents, teachers, or project managers, these individuals are often the primary source of emotional security and support for children who have experienced abandonment, trauma, and tumultuous family situations. 


We believe that to truly support the children in care, we must first support the adults in their lives. It is essential to meet them where they are, to be culturally sensitive, and to engage and motivate them through strength building activities, rather than resorting to deficit-focused approaches.  

Frontline caregivers often come with their own personal histories, beliefs, and unique challenges. Expecting them to adopt new ideas or methods without acknowledging their own realities may lead to passive resistance and frustration. Meanwhile, traditional training and support programs often take a deficit-focused approach. Experts come in, identify what caregivers are NOT doing well, and prescribe external solutions. While this is well-intentioned, it can leave caregivers with feelings of inadequacy, demoralization, and confusion.
               

Instead, we have adopted a strength-based and culturally sensitive model which begins with listening. We invite caregivers to share stories about their daily challenges, joys, fears, and needs. For example, in a training for teachers working in orphanages, the teachers mentioned that some children’s behavior issues and their lack of progress in learning were their biggest challenges at work. Knowing this allows us to tailor the training to their actual needs.  

Seeing caregivers as capable and competent problem solvers and amplifying their strengths fosters motivation. For example, in trainings about how to engage with children through play, we started by asking: what kinds of play do you already use with the children in your care? What games did you play when you were little? The discussions brought smiles to everyone’s face. One caregiver shared that she remembered playing “selling piglets” as a child with her siblings, which involved a lot of pretending, playful physical contact, and laughter. She was encouraged to introduce this game to the children during her shift, and it became the most popular game at the time. 


Working with caregivers from diverse cultural backgrounds means we need to be adaptable and drop the one-size-fits-all approach. In one of the orphanages, many caregivers were skeptical of formal training but possessed rich local knowledge. Rather than insisting on typical workshops, we used shared staff lunchtime (nap time for the children) as a teaching tool and capacity building opportunities to talk about how to interact with children and understand their behaviors. During this time, caregivers were more open to share their concerns and strategies, rather than quietly noting down information passed on to them as often seen in traditional professional development sessions. 


Supporting adults who care for vulnerable children is not about forcing them to conform to a single mold. It is about recognizing their voices, amplifying their strengths, and walking alongside with them humility. When we meet caregivers where they are, we help create a more nurturing and stable environment for the children, and for the caregivers themselves too. This approach emphasizes that quality care begins not just with food and shelter, or training, but with human connections.